The grass could always be greener on the other side, but the grass could also be browner. You have a choice. You can spend your life focused on the positives of what others have or you could spend your life focused on your blessings.
I’ve been on all sides of the baby sleep schedule this week and I’ve been tempted to complain about each one, but tonight I’ve really realized I could just as easily be celebrating each one.
Zoya is a good baby, but she is not at all consistent. She will wake me up at 5:00 am some mornings and then sleep til 11:00 am the next. Some nights I go to sleep early and daddy stays up for hours trying to put baby to sleep. And other nights I stay up and put her to sleep.
Now I could complain, like I’ll admit I did today, that I get sent to bed like a 5 year old while daddy and baby get to stay awake and hang out. And tomorrow I could complain that I stayed awake until 11:30 holding her and putting her to sleep. Or I could be really happy that I had so much time with her tonight. And really grateful that often daddy let’s me go to sleep early and he walks a fussy baby til 1:00 am.
As a working mom, I’m more likely to appreciate her getting up at 5:00 am so that I can see her than her sleeping until 11:00 am when I am at work.
I’m noy saying all things are equal, but i can choose what I can choose to focus on the positives or the negatives.
I suppose this is also a choice i have regarding the fact that I am a working mom right now. I could be choosing to focus on the positives, even when the grass of the stay at home mom looks so green right now. I know there are positives to my position but the useless mommy guilt can make me even feel guilty about looking for positives.
But I won’t let that guilt stop me. I will count my blessings, even those specifically related to working outside the home.
1. I never get tired of the baby
2. My back doesn’t hurt as bad as it would if I was home holding the baby all day
3. I still get to pick out baby clothes, I just don’t get to dress baby
4. If baby is fussy and won’t go to sleep that is usually daddy’s problem.
5. I don’t get bored
Does anyone have any to add? Why is it good to be able to work outside the home? Or what areas do you struggle to focus on your own green grass?