About Me

Camila Zolfaghari

Child of God, Mother, Widow, Writer, Speaker

Who I am

My life took a a major turn when after a year of parenthood my husband was killed in a random carjacking. This didn’t turn out to be a light little way to catelog motherhood, my husband’s career growth, and the realization of my hopes and dreams of being a stay-at-home homeschooling wife and mother. Immediately after the death ofmy husband, this was my way to share my grief journey as I learned to process the loss and the love.

Throughout my journey I have learned so much about grief and hope, pain and joy; and the stark different between the way the world address, or often runs from grief, and the way our Creator embraced both grief and joy.

I think if I were to go back and rename this site, I would be tempted to name it Both And.

God has been faithful and life is still very hard. My child actively aches from being fatherless, and God is the father to the fatherless. Both And.

Who I was – 2015

I’m a Southern girl with a Yankee mother. Born and living in the South though I’ve spent time off and on in the Netherlands. At 35 I met an Iranian in Istanbul. He moved and we married the next year. Now the year after that, at 37, I have my first beautiful child.

I always planned to stay home with my child, but that does not appear to be God’s plan, so when our baby turns 12 weeks I will have to return to a fairly stressful, influential, and emotionally scaring job.

I’m trusting God has a plan to provide for us and I hope to write about his provision on this blog as time goes on. He will provide strength for our current circumstances and change for the future.

This is a place for me to record this new journey. It is a place to record this new life. This is a story for baby girl of how God provided for her and for us. This is a story for baby girl of how much she is loved. This is a blog of praise for what God has done and what he is yet to do.

I use the names Baby and Daddy more than the given names (thought I sometimes slip up and use the real names). I do this because someday they will create their own web presence and the top result of a search for their name should be the life they have created, and not the ramblings of Mommy and Wife.

Get in touch

I am always available for side collaborations and talks worldwide. If you want to chat about grief, trauma, hope, joy, pain parenting, writing, gardening, or anything else, don’t hesitate in reaching out.